Personal Growth

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Active Listening is a Forgotten Communication Skill

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / July 21, 2021

Active listening is a vital communication skill that can deepen connection and understanding in all types of relationships. However when active listening is missing, it can have big consequences. When we forget the IMPORTANCE of listening, we are consciously or unconsciously saying we value our thoughts and opinions more than the person we are talking to. Keep reading for 7 ways listening improves your relationships.

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The Real Cost of Blame

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / July 1, 2021

How much control you believe you have over your feelings and circumstances can affect your mental health and lead to a pattern of blame, negative self-talk, depression, and anger. Read more about how you can regain control over your emotional wellbeing.

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Legacy Building: What will you leave behind?

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / June 16, 2021

Your legacy is something that lasts long after you’re gone- it’s not just about money. It is the relational ideals, the intangibles, the attitudes, the Godly perspective, and principles that will guide them as they pass those qualities on to their children. What Legacy are you passing on this father’s day?

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Speak Up: Breaking Your Silence

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / June 2, 2021

We all want to be known, heard, and understood in our relationships. But the only way to do that is by speaking up and making yourself heard. Depending on your past experiences, including how you were raised and what your relationships (romantic and otherwise) have looked like, speaking up might not come naturally.   Your…

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Setting Healthy Boundaries: YES & NO

By New Life Counseling / May 11, 2021

Healthy boundaries are essential for successful relationships, romantic and otherwise, and a balanced, joyful life. Without boundaries, it gets hard to determine our limits and often we find ourselves overwhelmed and stressed out—not to mention feeling guilty about our choices. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. With a few tools in your toolbox…

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Goal setting strategies by Enneagram Type: Goals part 4

By New Life Counseling / April 30, 2021

In part 4 of our goal setting series we are talking about how your personality type (specifically enneagram) influences your goal setting process. We are giving tips for setting healthy goals based on your type. Also links to Dr. Don Gilberts Personal Strength Survey.

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Coping with Stress: Self-Care part 2

By New Life Counseling / April 23, 2021

How is stress management vital to your self-care? Your body was created to respond to stressful input- most understand this as the fight or flight response. But your body is not equipped to handle long-term, chronic stress without ill consequences. Yes, that’s right, chronic stress can make you physically sick. We will talk more in…

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6 Myths About Addiction

By Emilie LeLaCheur / March 31, 2021

Many people don’t understand addiction and substance abuse or dependency. They think those who struggle with addiction must lack moral substance or willpower. In reality, breaking the cycle of addiction takes far more than an iron will or even a desire to quit. Addictive substances and behaviors quite literally alter the chemistry of the brain…

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The Sleep Health Connection: Self-Care Pt 1

By New Life Counseling / March 4, 2021

Good sleep is vital to your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. 5 tips to improve your sleep and mental health in part 1 of our self-care series: CBT/ talk therapy, journaling, sleep hygiene, blue lights, diet, exercise, and routine, and how lack of sleep truly effects a body.

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Living Single and Loving it!

By New Life Counseling / February 10, 2021

Stop dreading singleness and choose to love being single. Learn why relationship status doesn’t play into happiness and how to recalibrate your mindset with these tips. Unhappy and single is a mindset issue. This Valentine’s day, whether you are newly single, or frustrated at your ongoing single status, embrace flying solo. It could be one…

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