Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC

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Active Listening is a Forgotten Communication Skill

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / July 21, 2021

Active listening is a vital communication skill that can deepen connection and understanding in all types of relationships. However when active listening is missing, it can have big consequences. When we forget the IMPORTANCE of listening, we are consciously or unconsciously saying we value our thoughts and opinions more than the person we are talking to. Keep reading for 7 ways listening improves your relationships.

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The Real Cost of Blame

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / July 1, 2021

How much control you believe you have over your feelings and circumstances can affect your mental health and lead to a pattern of blame, negative self-talk, depression, and anger. Read more about how you can regain control over your emotional wellbeing.

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Legacy Building: What will you leave behind?

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / June 16, 2021

Your legacy is something that lasts long after you’re gone- it’s not just about money. It is the relational ideals, the intangibles, the attitudes, the Godly perspective, and principles that will guide them as they pass those qualities on to their children. What Legacy are you passing on this father’s day?

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Speak Up: Breaking Your Silence

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / June 2, 2021

We all want to be known, heard, and understood in our relationships. But the only way to do that is by speaking up and making yourself heard. Depending on your past experiences, including how you were raised and what your relationships (romantic and otherwise) have looked like, speaking up might not come naturally.   Your…

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Control Talk

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / August 11, 2020

Everyone wants some level of control in their life. It makes us feel safe, solid, and independent. However, problems can arise when we force that control onto those around us. Have you ever been told that you’re controlling? Have you ever taken time to reflect on how your communication style may be unconsciously communicating something…

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The Importance of Being a Father

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / June 21, 2020

Today in America, we see a clear decline of our societal foundations. David Popenoe wrote in his book Families Without Fathers, “The past three decades have seen a steep rise in crime, declining interpersonal and political trust, growing personal greed, deteriorating communities, and increasing confusion over moral issues.” People no longer conduct themselves according to the…

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