Communication

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How Do Boundaries Work In A Toxic Marriage?

By Julie Roche / August 4, 2021

Have you ever been told you needed better boundaries? Just what does that mean? And how do boundaries work especially in a marriage with toxic and destructive communication or behaviors? What Is A Relational Boundary? A boundary, much like a fence, separates your physical yard from your neighbors. A relational boundary differentiates one individual from…

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Active Listening is a Forgotten Communication Skill

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / July 21, 2021

Active listening is a vital communication skill that can deepen connection and understanding in all types of relationships. However when active listening is missing, it can have big consequences. When we forget the IMPORTANCE of listening, we are consciously or unconsciously saying we value our thoughts and opinions more than the person we are talking to. Keep reading for 7 ways listening improves your relationships.

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Speak Up: Breaking Your Silence

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / June 2, 2021

We all want to be known, heard, and understood in our relationships. But the only way to do that is by speaking up and making yourself heard. Depending on your past experiences, including how you were raised and what your relationships (romantic and otherwise) have looked like, speaking up might not come naturally.   Your…

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Setting Healthy Boundaries: YES & NO

By New Life Counseling / May 11, 2021

Healthy boundaries are essential for successful relationships, romantic and otherwise, and a balanced, joyful life. Without boundaries, it gets hard to determine our limits and often we find ourselves overwhelmed and stressed out—not to mention feeling guilty about our choices. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. With a few tools in your toolbox…

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New Year Same Love: your relationship goals

By New Life Counseling / January 13, 2021

While you’re busy writing down your personal goals for the year, use our completely free worksheet to reflect on your relationship and set intentions for the upcoming months.

Closeness and connection don’t just happen; flourishing requires time, attention, and nourishment. Assessing your connection and commitment to grow your relationship is an important task. Taking time to talk and intentionally make a renewed commitment to each other can enhance your life together.

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Grief at Christmas

By Emilie LeLaCheur / December 10, 2020

For many 2020 has been a year of cancellation, job loss, loss of community, and loss of loved ones. This holiday season can be a reminder of who will not be with us and traditions that won’t feel the same. Recognizing the grief you’re experiencing is important to processing and finding a path forward. Here are some tips and practical ways to deal with your grief this holiday season.

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Control Talk

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / August 11, 2020

Everyone wants some level of control in their life. It makes us feel safe, solid, and independent. However, problems can arise when we force that control onto those around us. Have you ever been told that you’re controlling? Have you ever taken time to reflect on how your communication style may be unconsciously communicating something…

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Human Trafficking: what is it and how to talk to your children and teens

By New Life Counseling / July 28, 2020

Human trafficking is slavery. There are millions of slaves in the world today. More than ever before in human history. Only an estimated 1% of victims are ever rescued. It is the fastest-growing criminal industry in the world, generating more than $150 billion USD every year. Human trafficking is a crime that strips people of…

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Owning Your Feelings

By New Life Counseling / May 21, 2020

While 1 in 5 people will experience a mental illness during their lifetime, everyone faces challenges in life that can impact their mental health. The good news is there are practical tools that everyone can use to improve their mental health and increase resiliency – and there are ways that everyone can be supportive of…

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New Year, Same Love: How to Assess Your Connection in 2020

By New Life Counseling / January 7, 2020

A new year is here! Which means new goals and fresh perspectives—including your romantic relationship. Whether you’re married or dating, a refresh is probably in order. Assessing your connection and commitment to growing your relationship is often an uncomfortable but important task. Taking time to talk and intentionally make a renewed commitment to each other…

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