Boundaries & Communication

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How Do Boundaries Work In A Toxic Marriage?

By New Life Counseling / August 4, 2021

Have you ever been told you needed better boundaries? Just what does that mean? And how do boundaries work especially in a marriage with toxic and destructive communication or behaviors? What Is A Relational Boundary? A boundary, much like a fence, separates your physical yard from your neighbors. A relational boundary differentiates one individual from…

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Active Listening is a Forgotten Communication Skill

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / July 21, 2021

Active listening is a vital communication skill that can deepen connection and understanding in all types of relationships. However when active listening is missing, it can have big consequences. When we forget the IMPORTANCE of listening, we are consciously or unconsciously saying we value our thoughts and opinions more than the person we are talking to. Keep reading for 7 ways listening improves your relationships.

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Speak Up: Breaking Your Silence

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / June 2, 2021

We all want to be known, heard, and understood in our relationships. But the only way to do that is by speaking up and making yourself heard. Depending on your past experiences, including how you were raised and what your relationships (romantic and otherwise) have looked like, speaking up might not come naturally.   Your…

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Setting Healthy Boundaries: YES & NO

By New Life Counseling / May 11, 2021

Healthy boundaries are essential for successful relationships, romantic and otherwise, and a balanced, joyful life. Without boundaries, it gets hard to determine our limits and often we find ourselves overwhelmed and stressed out—not to mention feeling guilty about our choices. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. With a few tools in your toolbox…

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Holiday Stress and Boundaries

By Emilie LeLaCheur / November 11, 2020

Especially in these difficult times, the holidays can bring with it the dilemma of how to balance what the “biblical response” is and what you can emotionally tolerate. As Christians it can be a hard to find balance or set limits and boundaries. The great news is that it’s a skill Jesus demonstrated for us in a variety of situations.

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Holidays: Check your Expectations

By New Life Counseling / October 23, 2020

Holidays: It’s the most wonderful time of the year—food is plentiful, gifts are wrapped, and the entire family is gathered together. Holiday season truly is something special. But it can also be a time of unmet expectations, disappointment, angst, and family quarrels. Our own expectations of how the holidays should go are often the sole…

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Cyberbullying: Social Distanced Bullying

By New Life Counseling / October 13, 2020

While we champion the fact that face-to-face bullying has decreased in schools and society, it has not disappeared. Hate speech between children and teens on social platforms increased a staggering 70%. Check out these 8 tips to combat cyberbullying and more about the impact of social distancing on bullying- on the blog!

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Journaling

By New Life Counseling / August 26, 2020

Do you feel stuck and overwhelmed by life, anxiety, covid19, things you can’t control, relationships and more? Have you ever tried journaling? Check out these tips, 15 methods of journaling and 100
prompts. includes perspective, gratitude, intuition, 5 Why’s, visual, TLC, dream journaling and more!

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Control Talk

By Dr. Donald Gilbert, MS, PhD, LMHC, BCPC / August 11, 2020

Everyone wants some level of control in their life. It makes us feel safe, solid, and independent. However, problems can arise when we force that control onto those around us. Have you ever been told that you’re controlling? Have you ever taken time to reflect on how your communication style may be unconsciously communicating something…

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Human Trafficking: what is it and how to talk to your children and teens

By New Life Counseling / July 28, 2020

Human trafficking is slavery. There are millions of slaves in the world today. More than ever before in human history. Only an estimated 1% of victims are ever rescued. It is the fastest-growing criminal industry in the world, generating more than $150 billion USD every year. Human trafficking is a crime that strips people of…

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